our story
I once did a simple survey and asked the Chinese parents around me: Why did you come to New Zealand? Nearly 80% of parents answered the same: for the education of their children!
I still remember the experience of immigrating to New Zealand in early 2009.
At that time, it was very entangled whether the 16-year-old daughter should study abroad. On the one hand, the business in China is in full swing, and the daily life is on a regular basis. There is also a group of like-minded friends. Coming out means giving up a lot and restarting in an unfamiliar environment in a good year; on the other hand, giving domestic education. The stress caused by the child is worried. After weighing the pros and cons, he finally stepped out of the country boldly. All for the children!
When I first arrived in New Zealand, my children’s education was not as simple as I thought: I thought that choosing a good school for my children would be fine, and they would help me train my children. These ideas came from the propaganda about Western education that I saw before going abroad. In fact, when I arrived in New Zealand, I discovered that not only children have to adapt to the new environment, but parents also need to adapt. Transforming from a highly stressful learning environment that pursues grades and pays utmost attention to learning to a stress-free environment that seems to have no homework and no teacher supervision, it really feels like falling into the cloud, and feels that Liushen is no master. Coupled with the long-standing bad habit of domestic parents who always want to be the masters of their children, serious conflicts have arisen between them and their daughters. For this reason, I asked for help everywhere, hoping to solve this problem. Finally, I met the New Zealand "Coaching Parent" course. The parent-child skills discussed in this course made me feel like alive. From then on, I began to change myself, using the principle of respect, using listening skills to get along with each child, and easily became the children's friend. Using the same principles and techniques, it has unexpected results in getting along with other family members and friends. I deeply understand that it is better to ask for yourself than for yourself! Each of us has the ability to solve problems, but we lack background knowledge and corresponding skills. When we encounter specific problems, we don’t know what to do. What are the consequences of doing so? There is a short-term effect and a long-term effect. What kind of relationship.
Since 2011, I have carefully studied this parent course with a history of 20 years in New Zealand, and made the teaching DVD into a Chinese version. I started Chinese teaching in 2012. In our teaching process, we have made special guidance for the confusion of Chinese parents. Parents have received rave reviews, and the number of parents participating in the training has been increasing year by year.
During the teaching process, we discovered a problem: most parent-child relationships are deeply affected by the relationship between husband and wife and the relationship between three generations. The relationship between husband and wife is the core of the entire family relationship. Poor husband and wife relationship makes it difficult to create a harmonious family relationship, and purely pursuing a good parent-child relationship and the healthy growth of children is almost a matter of reason.
In fact, the content of my work when I was in Beijing was to spread Li Mu's independent learning method. In the past 10 years, hundreds of thousands of students and parents have benefited. The core of our communication is to enable students to have the ability to learn independently, and to form their due values, thinking and action abilities in autonomous learning. These are the main ability to solve problems. However, we have also found that some students will rise quickly after attending class, but there will be fluctuations after a while. One of the main reasons is the impact of parent education and family environment. Therefore, we are clearly aware that the healthy growth of children and the ability to learn independently are the core factors, but a good parent-child relationship and a harmonious family atmosphere are beneficial guarantees for their growth. Then, establish a good family system so that couples can clarify their family goals and their respective tasks, understand the expectations and education methods for their children, and confidently create a family environment that supports family members to realize their potential and realize themselves. It has become a necessary condition for children's growth and family happiness.
To this end, we prepared for the establishment of the Happy Family Charity Foundation at the end of 2016. The goal of our work is to help every family establish such a system and establish a growth platform for children and youth, so that each child's potential can be independently developed. , Let children have the ability to learn independently, and let parents create the most powerful support environment for their children's growth.
Recently, we and relevant local institutions have begun to explore a new model of combining the educational advantages of China and New Zealand, hoping to help children find the motivation and golden key to independent learning. In this model, children, parents, schools and communities will make their own contributions to improve the quality of education.
We wish all children can live in a happy family and have the ability to feel happiness and create happiness!
Founder of Happy Family Charity Foundation
Ms. Leng Xiaobo
